Solid Guy

You know the guy that came to your head when you read the title of this? Yeah that’s the guy I’m talking about. What makes him just a good, solid guy? My friends and I used to joke around about the term “solid guy”; it has little to do with physical build or anything like that. Instead, it has a lot to do with their character and how they treated other people.

Now for us, if we all agreed you were a “solid guy,” that was basically the highest compliment. I think we only ever officially declared 2-3 dudes “solid guys.” I actually don’t really know how to describe what it means. Have you ever met someone where you just give them that approving head shake? And you can’t even put a finger on what it is, they’re just … well … solid guys! I remember thinking, “Hmm, I am not a solid guy … what makes these people so special? What makes them different?” I think I realized eventually that it kinda boils down to how they act with others.

If you know me at all you probably know that I can get annoyed pretty quickly. And if I don’t like you all that much, I’ll probably just shut you out (no hard feelings, of course). I just am not gonna hangout with you or talk to you or acknowledge your existence. But I realize this isn’t the quality of a “solid guy”. What makes a person like that is how they interact with other people. Sure, they think that person is annoying, but they don’t change the way they treat them just because of that. And I realize that that is something super key in life. People are people, and just because I don’t “like” them doesn’t give me a right to shut them out or ignore them (though maybe I would cover them with a blanket and pretend they don’t exist if I could).

I realized reading through Proverbs lately how important all of that is. Proverbs is one of my favorite books in the Bible because it really doesn’t require a whole lot of understanding.  It’s basically, “Hey, you probably shouldn’t do that,” or just, “Wise people do this, you should probably do this too.” It's so straightforward it's not even funny. You don’t need to be a genius to understand it, and I love that simplicity. Yet it's crazy how much advice in Proverbs I totally ignore. How dumb can I be to ignore straightforward advice like that from the same person who literally created me?! That's gotta be one of the dumbest things out there.

I’m slowly (very slowly) learning that relationships and investing in people is one of the most important things I can put my time and effort into. So next time that annoying kid in class who won’t stop asking questions just to look smart, or that other kid in chapel who won’t stop making side comments to draw attention to themselves, or that other kid that's friends with you just because of what you can provide them with, or that other kid … you get the idea. I told you I had a problem! Instead of shutting them out completely, just … be a solid guy (or girl, that's totally a thing); high five that annoying existence of a person anyway. It benefits you more in the end.

Sterling Grinnell